Power

When you have a felt sense of your enoughness, you naturally and effortlessly step into the lead role in your life. You know deep down with confidence what's right for you and act in alignment with that.

You can easily:

• Hold boundaries with work, friends, and partners. When a person or job attempts to demand more than is right for you, your trust in your enoughness frees you to recognize the problem as a mismatch, not a personal failure. And because you know that you contribute at a high level, you have confidence that there's a better match for you and that you can find it.
• Have high and kind expectations for how people treat you. You know in your bones that your presence in a relationship is precious, so you don't have to accept crumbs when you want the whole cake. When someone hurts your feelings or lets you down, you'll stop talking yourself into why it's no big deal and instead have clear, kind, direct conversations about what you need.
• Treat yourself with care and kindness. You have direct experience with how much more you have to offer when your needs are met, so you naturally prioritize investing in yourself so you can always feel and bring your best.
• Pursue your dreams. You have confidence in your skills and abilities, and you know you're worthy of dreaming big. You trust yourself to take action, even when you're intimidated by your vision, and you're excited to offer your biggest dreams to the collective.

Develop the personal power and confidence to hold out for what's right for you.

Freedom

Pleasure is the point. Feeling good isn't frivolous, it's freedom. –adrienne maree brown 

Before I began this journey for myself, I wasn't in touch with my desires. If I was going out to eat with friends and someone asked me what I wanted for dinner, I'd ask them to pick, or at least pick a few options, so I could choose from what I knew they liked. In relationships, I'd meet someone who showed interest in me, and I'd make do with what they were offering. For work, applied to jobs without ever asking myself what work I would enjoy the most.

Instead of allowing myself to be in touch with my desires, I scanned the field of what was available and picked from there.

This is a safety strategy! I'd been given two entwined messages that led me to developing this approach:

1. There is something inherently wrong with/not enough about me that means that...
2. Some things just aren't possible for me, so I should figure out how to make do with what I could get.

Rather than face the withering despair of wanting things I couldn't have, I blocked myself from my inner knowing, which communicates through feelings, including desire. And then I learned to make do with the pleasure of being useful to others – partners, friends, work, doing favors, going the extra mile, exceeding expectations and being grateful for whatever good could flow my way through those efforts.

Belonging

What I know now, though, is

1. My desires are signposts to my most joyful, powerful, and fully expressed life, and
2. I am inherently worthy of my desires, no matter how flawed or imperfect some parts of me think I am.

And the same is true for you. It's true for all of us.

Finding your Funktionslust is about cultivating this direct, embodied knowing for yourself.

Creation

So how do you get there?

Our cultural conditioning trains us to operate on the basis of external rules and information, which, for most of us, is training in self-abandonment.

Becoming the star of your own life is a process of:

1. Learning to hear, value, and trust your inner wisdom, and...
2. Developing trust and confidence in yourself so you can act in alignment with that wisdom.

Find Your Funktionslust is a 1:1 personal development program that supports you in creating alignment inside and out, so you can act with power, freedom, and responsibility in every relationship and undertaking.

Creating inner alignment means that you get in touch with parts of yourself that are in conflict with each other – e.g., the part that wants to feel accepted vs. the part that wants to speak up when someone you love hurts your feelings – and cultivate the leadership of your most loving inner self to navigate those conflicts.

Creating outer alignment means learning to notice ways that you work against your own best interests – e.g., agreeing to do a favor out of obligation rather than pleasure – and cultivating the wisdom and power to act on your own behalf in a way that feels good more and more of the time.

Packages range in length from 3 months to a year, and in price from $4,500-18,000.