Befriend Your Body

so you can love your life, access your power,

and contribute to the world of OUR dreams,

where winning means EVERYONE wins

Whether you are snuggling your kid, executing a project, going for a hike, enjoying your vacation, your body is the instrument through which you create, relate to, and experience everything in your life.

When you have an alienated or adversarial relationship with your body, it shows in all your relationships:

• You say you're okay with things that actually bother you in order to "keep the peace" in relationships while actually feeling resentful.
• You overextend yourself doing favors for people who rarely return the favors to you, leaving you feel undervalued and unappreciated.
• You freeze or fawn when a boss, parent, or friend says something you object to, rather than speaking up for yourself and your values, then you fall into self criticism and wondering why you did that.
• You struggle to take action on tasks, projects, or world events that matter most to you, while over-giving to your work or relationships that don't give back to you.
• You spend more time doomscrolling than you want, and then you are short tempered with your family, friends, or coworkers. 

It often looks like "keep on keeping on" while feeling crushed inside.

As you and your body get on the same team, you will find it easier and easier to show up every day in ways you feel great about.

As you cultivate a deep and open connection with your body, it is increasingly easy to:

• Express what you want and need in relationships, without apology. Whether you want more quality time with a partner, more grace from a friend, adjusted expectations from a boss, or to end a conversation with a stranger, befriending your body helps you be a friend to your whole self.
• Notice when a situation isn't right for you and find ways to leave it. This could be a big life circumstance like a job or relationship, or a smaller one off a social dynamic like a party or a fundraiser taking donations on the sidewalk. Whatever it is, as you reconnect with your body, you will naturally hear and act on your body's wisdom so you remove yourself from places that aren't right for you, and stop spending your energy putting up with what you don't want. 
• Tolerate the discomfort of waiting, so you can hold out for the right job offer or potential partner, rather than jumping at the first opportunity that says yes to you.
• Say yes or no to requests, favors, and opportunities on the basis of what feels right for you. No more agreeing to do a favor that you'll resent, or saying yes to a friend only to flake later. By tuning into what's true for you at the body level, you will become a more steady and reliable friend, parent, partner.
• Stay connected with yourself when your boundaries are being crossed, so rather than get triggered and spin out, you can reiterate your needs and step away in a way that feels right to you.